Today we’d like to introduce you to Sonya Lyn.
Sonya, can you briefly walk us through your story – how you started and how you got to where you are today.
I was the victim of emotional and physical abusive relationships. As an empath and a co- dependent.I attracted Narcissistic Sociopaths, I was the fuel to Emotional Vampires,that lacked even an ounce of empathy, they are all about power and control, emotionally unavailable and selfish. Their intention is always tuned into the station WIIFM. “What’s in It For Me.” While I was starving for love and connection I was giving all of myself and doing everything for others to feel any level of love, even immature selfish love. I was addicted to what I thought was love. I lived in dysfunction, beating my head against a wall living in fear. I was sleepwalking through life in my subconscious mind. People treated me the way I allowed them to treat me. Relationships are not functional when parties are at a low level of awareness. I stayed because my past programming and life experiences had me believing I was worthless, the negative voices in my head told me I could not support myself nevermind my 3 children as well. There was security, and comfort …in staying. Correction it was anything but comfortable and safe! I reached the point where I no longer would accept the lies and abusive behavior. I finally had some sense knocked into me as if a 2 by 4 whacked me on the head for the last time, I took a leap of faith and that was the beginning of my journey beyond divorce and freedom from the toxic cycle of co-dependency and Narcissism.
My journey of healing, a divorce that earned the title of war and dating while a trainwreck was not good for the soul, the other person or children! Connecting and attracting from vulnerability coming from a place of lack and need,not even knowing who I was or why I attracted who I did was a toxic recipe for heartbreak, dysfunctional relationships and more abuse. Relationships fail because of our low levels of consciousness .Often one person loves too much while another loves too little. This was a time to love myself, gain awareness, grow and discover who I was. Not a time for dating insanity. I needed to be there for myself and my children to break the cycle.
The anxiety led me to running, pain from years of neglect and a hunger to have my needs met. Afraid of more abandonment . I didn’t know how to meet my own 6 basic needs myself. I thought I had to change on the outside, or needed someone to complete me, when I really needed to heal and become complete first. The running led to my passion, and health. I went from the couch depressed and stuck in my past to a 5k race to a 10k and a half marathon then a full marathon. ..I’m training for a 50k Ultra now..that is anything over the 26.2 marathon. Learning to set goals, achieve them and challenge myself grew my confidence that I truly can achieve what I believe. I was in the best shape of my life, happy healthy and then….oops I did it again. I was blind, I found the one so I thought. I had not broken through my cycle, I couldn’t believe it. I then took another leap. I loved all the personal development I was learning, I hated cleaning houses, I was exhausted raising 3 children on my own. I didn’t see any opportunity I felt stuck. Pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional. ~ Tony Robbins. When I finally took responsibility for where I was in life and stopped blaming others I saw more options. I had learned what I loved, I loved to grow, inspire and empower others. I went to school to become a Life Coach and a Strategic Interventionist.
We’re always bombarded by how great it is to pursue your passion, etc – but we’ve spoken with enough people to know that it’s not always easy. Overall, would you say things have been easy for you?
It was not smooth. I am a very hard working determined person. As the sole person responsible for my children, they came 1st. I had to learn I’m right where I am meant to be. The right pace is my pace. Silencing the inner conflict in my mind to stay true to my values and not get stressed and out of balance. As a Coach I wanted to coach people to whatever success looks and feels like to the client. There are no coincidences, Sonya means wisdom and with the knowledge skills and strategies I have learned, I was eager to share with the world to serve others with support through divorce and their journey beyond. To heal their pain, discover their passion and live with purpose. To attract the healthy love they desire and deserve breaking the cycle of dysfunction, raising children for a life they won’t have to heal from. Success is not a destination, it’s a journey. The purpose of Life is to discover our life purpose and feel fulfilled while we serve.
So let’s switch gears a bit and go into the Sonya Lyn Life Coaching story. Tell us more about the business.
My business is Sonya Lyn Life Coaching. Leading you to a Life Full of Love on Your Journey Beyond….Divorce, Heartbreak, Narcissism, Toxic relationships, loss of a loved one,empty nest and so called “mid life crisis.” I’m a Breakthrough Life Coach and Strategic Interventionist, Energy Leadership Master Practitioner and a Reiki Healer.
What role has luck (good luck or bad luck) played in your life and business?
Specializing in Your Journey Beyond Divorce. Support, coping and Leadership skills for families through transition during and after divorce to prevent addiction, dysfunctional relationships and behavior. Enhancing relationships, creating the life you desire for joy fulfillment, healthy love and abundance. I’m known for being genuine, strong, my compassion, authenticity, positive energy and my Love Factor Process, that is a mirror image of how we show up to others and as our best self and under stress and conflict. What’s working for us and what our blind spots are in our relationships with ourselves and others. How our Love Leadership and past programming works for us and against us. I coach remotely through phone and zoom sessions with email support and accountability throughout the week for individuals, couples and teenagers.
I’m proud of my continued education to better serve my clients from age 14 to 70. I have walked the talk through healthier living, active lifestyle, single parenthood, divorce, loss, breaking the cycle of toxic abusive relationships, trouble with teens, going to school, career transition, starting a business, healing my pain, discovering my passion and living my purpose. It starts within, we are the common denominator in our relationships. Life coaching gave me a life, I had no idea how miserable I was until I experienced inner peace and now I love who I am, I love who I am with and have the most rewarding job. This client below had lost his wife suddenly. He was depressed, lonely and living like a hermit. He thought he’d be alone forever. He is now happily remarried to a wonderful woman, he has retired, he lives his passion being active and boating and social with many friends. He is thriving and extremely happy.
I don’t view situations as luck or good or bad. I don’t believe in coincidences. It’s not what we see it how we view it. It’s our perception. It’s the Law of Attraction. Our vibration, everything is energy. We attract what we put out. When I thought life was happening to me as the victim. I brought on more illness, more despair, hopelessness “bad luck.” When I broke my cycle, pattern and behaviors I shifted into higher vibrations to positive healing thoughts. I was then able to see more opportunities around me. More abundance, creating my next chapter right and living the Life I desire. I failed forward, I may have been knocked down to my knees 7 times, however, I got up 8.
Pricing:
- Why we do what we do assessment, understanding our needs and the needs of others $195.00
- Love Factor Process Assesment, mirror image our best self and blind spots from stress and conflict $297.00
Contact Info:
- Address: 80 Windsor Rd. Hillsboro NH 03244
- Website: www.SonyaLynLifeCoaching.com
- Phone: 603~315~6138
- Email: sonyalynlifecoaching@gmail.com
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thecoachinyourcorner/
- Other: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thecoachinyourcorner/
Image Credit:
Trayce Gregoire
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