Today we’d like to introduce you to Jacqueline Kane.
So, before we jump into specific questions about the business, why don’t you give us some details about you and your story.
I always thought I was great, I was working, going to the gym 3-4 times a week, meditating, overall I was feeling ok. Looking back on my life you could really say I was depressed. When our life is dysfunctional, we always seem to think “Everything’s fine…it’s great.” I know that’s what I thought. By 2010, I was building my business, working a full-time schedule, taking care of our two boys, going to the gym three to four times each week, we were socializing a lot, and I was meditating—mostly regularly. Overall, I told people I was feeling “Ok.” But what I didn’t understand was how depression had seeped into my life.
Fast forward to 1990 I met a charming, fun young man and we began dating. Getting to know him was fascinating. He grew up in a very different environment than I did. It was an adjustment seeing how different his family was. There was more respect than I’d ever seen. His siblings communicate better. Watching him want to take care of his siblings was a new concept for me. His family was closer than I was used to. We married in 1992. It was an adjustment period for me because his upbringing was so different than mine. But my earlier familial pattern of trying to be “the good little girl” re-emerged—this time I tried to be the perfect wife. I gave birth to our first son is 1995 and our second son in 1997. I was working 40 hours a week, trying to be the perfect wife and mother. Isn’t that how it’s supposed to be done? I was merely trying to create the life I saw others out there in society creating. Most of them made it look so nonchalant. You grow up, get married, have kids, work a job… no biggie. But it wasn’t working out so easy for me.
The funny thing about learned behavioral patterns is it can take a while to figure out how ineffective many of our behaviors are, much less that there might be other options. The coping strategies we learned as kids become…just the way things are. As such, my other learned pattern—my staunchly entrenched silence—also accompanied me into married life. My childhood had taught me to trust virtually no one, and my needs would never be met, so why waste my breath speaking up? And so it became in married life—I had no clue I was supposed to ask for what I needed, or that it might benefit me.
Healthy communication had never been modeled to me as a kid. I had no idea how to communicate effectively in a relationship. Consequently, I continued my old patterns of not speaking up, not asking for help or what I needed, feeling unvalued, and the resulting resentment came pouring in.
I felt overwhelmed and hopeless. I was working a job all day, and doing the wife-mom thing all evening. It felt like a 24/7, 365-day gig. There was no time off, and I did most everything myself. I began experiencing the effects of the anger and resentment—increased pain. The stress piled on, my continuing hip and back pain worsened and the headaches began. I was in a silent, angry, resentful and painful cocoon. My husband and I didn’t talk much. He did his thing and I did my thing.2009 I began realizing we weren’t communicating. Things I asked him to do, weren’t getting done. Dec. 2009, we’d had a New Year’s Eve Party and I realized my husband seemed to be avoiding me. He always wanted to invite other people… no alone time.
This is when I started working with various coaches and teachers. I looked deep within and learned what I needed to repair myself. I learned I had to speak up and tell him what I needed from him, and I learned how to do this. …Amazing journey, learning why I had reacted the ways I had, replacing old, unproductive behaviors with healthier coping and behaviors.
Today my life is completely different. My husband and I have come full circle. We love and support each unconditionally. My children are enjoying their successes and fulfilling their dreams. My business has evolved and grown into the career of my dreams. I am enjoying being unconditionally me and it feels amazing!
Has it been a smooth road?
As you may have read the prior story my life was filled with obstacles and struggles. My parents had it hard and that was taught to me. I learned that life has to be hard and a struggle. It is selfish to reward your self and feel that you deserve a reward. No one showed me how to communicate my needs in a safe way. How to speak up for me in a powerful loving way.
I had to learn who I was, what I desired and how to go about getting what I wanted.
So, as you know, we’re impressed with Jacqueline M Kane Pain Relief Specialist – tell our readers more, for example what you’re most proud of as a company and what sets you apart from others.
People come to me for a variety of reasons, mostly because they are living with constant physical pain for years and even decades. They have been to every Dr., taking medication and they are only getting worse. After 15 years in private practice as a healer, I know that one of the keys to a full life is to look past the symptoms of a problem to access the cause.
Along with my journey as a Bowenwork Therapist, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) Expert, Soul Clearings and Massage Therapist, I have discovered the crucial hidden links between physical pain, finances, and our ability to live with joy and ease. My research led me to create unique, results-oriented methods for uncovering these connections. My programs liberate clients from both physical pain and financial struggle so they create a path to energy, health, the ease with money, and personal fulfillment.
I work with individuals, groups, and organizations. Creator of the Healthy Wealthy Success System© for creating a joyful, pain-free life full of energy and financial success
Let’s touch on your thoughts about our city – what do you like the most and least?
I love all the things Boston offers. From the shopping to street entertainment. So many great restaurants and pubs to entertain ourselves.
Pricing:
- My programs go from $97 – $4000
Contact Info:
- Website: www.jacquelinemkane.com
- Phone: 860-307-0232
- Email: jacqueline@jacquelinemkane.com
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/savyjac/
- Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BowenHealingCenter
- Twitter: https://twitter.com/Jacquikane
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